GREAT question.
Although toys have come far and we don't seem to be as shy around them anymore, there is still that barrier we need to cross with a new partner.
One of the major fears we have as human beings is the fear of rejection. Rejection in bed is probably the worst of them all.
It has been a little easier for myself with the "I sell sex toys" line (not that I've EVER used that as a pick up line....). But for those of you that have those toys/edibles/lotions hiding in a plastic container under your bed, you may need a push..or two.
Usually it depends on two things: your attitude on toys and how comfortable he/she makes you feel regarding the topic of sex.
You could take the 100% Honesty route and ask her or him about it while in the mood. I wouldn't just whip out anything, especially a dildo in the heat of the moment. But once those feelings kick in and your hugging, kissing and touching...it may sound enticing.
Or, if you know your partner well enough, try to get to them when they're at their calmest. Maybe while watching tv, cooking, on the internet. Speaking of the internet, you could "accidently" open a toy page. Or porno page. Watch porno together. I wouldn't keep this high on the list but maybe after a few bottles of beer or a couple of drinks it would be easier to talk about.
Many times girls have asked me to bring up the topic that I sell toys in front of her and her partner. At first it may be uncomfortable but if the third party is as comfortable as I am with the topic, it'll be easier to keep the conversation going.
For ladies, it is a wee bit more difficult. Men may feel they're not adequate enough in bed. Their manly man is too small or can't perform. Try to help them understand that they're not being replaced. But you want to add a little fun or explore other ideas. Let's say the guy watches porn. Does porn replace you? No. If anything it may help out your sex life by adding ideas for positions and/or making him want you more.
You don't have to be a good sales person to sell the idea of sex toys. If the both of you are understanding to each others needs, you should be comfortable enough to at least approach the subject. Let the other know it won't hurt to just try something new.
If you have any other ideas/comments, let me know and I'll post them! If you're a blogger, leave a comment!!!
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just go to college, find a bunch of guys who have jacked up some cable, order some dominoes and sit back for an evening of porn and interesting discussions! haha...
this is a very informative post, thanks wo
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