First let me apologize for my absence. I've been very sick for the passed two weeks but I think I'm regaining my energy (hooraaaaay!!!) because I can finally type again.
The point of this post is to leave up something for you guys to leave your questions with! I mean of course you can still e-mail me or verbally ask your question. But in case you are a blogger or want to anonymously leave the question, go ahead and leave it here!
ASK AWAY!!!!
By the way, in case my info has become lost for you in the sea of posts, here it is!
jdonelin@gmail.com
:) :) :)
xoxoxo
12/28/2006
12/15/2006
Q: What is the optimal position for a woman to orgasm?
I'm happy to announce that a MAN has asked this question. Congrats on your interest in pleasing your woman!!!
But let's not forget that communication takes up a huge chunk of a relationship. Without it, well...you'll end up like my Nanny and Poppy sleeping in separate bedrooms, only coming together when guests arrive and then still argue about how the food tastes. I would love to once again remind both male and female that we need to open our mouths when it comes to what pleases us the most. But in reality, there are some of you girls that aren't aware of the ability to orgasm during sex. YES it is possible. YES it can happen to you and YES you will find it. Trust me, you little bunnies won't be leaving your bedrooms this holiday.
First let me introduce to you the beautiful, most amazing body...the female body. Ladies, did you know that we are capable of two different orgasms? Yes, TWO! Vaginal and clitoral. Vaginal is most common through penetration and less intense. Clitoral is most common during masturbation (rubbing, toys, etc) and very very intense.
Let's focus on the vaginal orgasm. Sometimes we can't have everything but I promise you won't be disappointed.
The vaginal orgasm occurs from the stimulation of the g-spot. Yes, we have a g-spot. If you are comfortable enough with your body, try to find it. Insert two fingers in so that your finger prints are facing your belly button. You shouldn't have to go more than even half your finger length so I don't need a story about how you had to go to the ER because you said that I said you could find something called the g-spot inside of you. Anyhoo, you should find a round, spongy bump in the area behind your clitoris. That little precious bump is the reason most toys have pearls or metal bearings in the shaft. When rotating they massage the g-spot while the vibrating part tickles the clitoris. Which then sends a girl in to heaven because what happens then is a combination of a vaginal and clitoral orgasm.
But I'll get back to that.
Now to use this g-spot thing during sex. Guys, this is where I need your attention. Because the spot is located in the front, just below the belly button, we need to try the positions where the penis gives that area the most attention. Boys I would highly suggest searching, tastefully searching for this g-spot phenomenon. Don't go digging like you're going to find some gold. Instead, expand the foreplay time (which I hope there IS some foreplay time at all) and do what I explained in the paragraph above.
The most basic position I can think of is missionary with a little help from a pillow or two. All you need to do is stick the pillow under her bottom or a little above it. That way you two are level with each other down there. Or you guys can just lift your girl's bottom up yourself but I'm just looking out for comfort. Be ready, she'll want to keep going and going :)
Another good one is doggy style. Whether the female is laying flat on her belly or on her hands and knees, again the pelvic regions are still level and the angle of the penis will surely come in contact with the g-spot. Also in this position, don't forget that you can experiment with where your legs go. While on hands and knees, girls can keep their legs closed while the man places his on the outside. Or vice versa - girls open your legs enough so that your manly man can be in between with his legs closed.
Next is the female on top. I'm sure this is a favorite already. Try on top facing your man's toes. Perfect angle for the perfect friction!
Last but not least and certainly not the last - spooning. Spooning is a great morning sex, lazy but horny, g-spot hitting position that everyone should at least try once. Guys, grab on to what you can - everything is in easy reach for you. Ladies hold on to his hand, the pillow, your legs, etc. Can't go wrong!!
I think I've (once again) written more than enough. Now close this post, go try something and then hit me up again :)
12/13/2006
Q: What is a good toy to use as a first timer?
Well let me just first say that I'm extremely happy to know there is a curiosity out there for using toys. I promise there will be no disappointments - just many more exciting stories at girly (maybe even mister mister) get togethers.
I understand many of the toys are a little scary, intimidating and even a teensy bit dangerous looking. No one wants a trip to the ER with something stuck inside of them but I swear it won't happen if you use the toys correctly and don't go too wild.
For the misses (also couples), I have a few rookie toys in mind.
I will always ALWAYS recommend first and foremost a smaller vibe. (*shown above*) They are usually about 4 inches long and the width is about a Quarter size. Maybe even a little smaller. It's for external use only (clitoris, balls, maybe to actually massage a knot in your back) and is very discrete and not intimidating. The newer models are very attractive. (*all products shown are available for sale at partygals.biz/bedtimetoys*)
This one is small and sleek without any wires or buttons to worry about. Plus a very cute design!
There is also the tiny bullets (for external use only) that can also be used in the massage mitts i sell (HIGHLY recommeded!!!). They are so tiny watch out you don't lose them!
If you'd like to explore vibes that can be used for penetration, this one would be a perfect first try
(****important!!! if you are interested in toys for penetration, always use some sort of lube!!! whether it is lubrication bought through my site or saliva, PLEASE use something!!!!*****)
All of these are also great to introduce to a partner. Girls, let your boy toy watch you use these vibes. It's also a great way for them to learn your hot spots. These toys are small enough to hold at the clitoris during sex which is a wonderful addition to play time.
Say you and your partner use these massagers and bullet but now you're willing to try something new. Well then I highly recommend a C-Ring such as this:
C-Rings, without the little vibe on the top, are meant to be placed around the base of the penis. Their job is to make the guy last longer by holding the blood in the shaft, making him harder and even a little bigger. And what man doesn't want to look bigger? Now this C-Ring shown above also holds a tiny vibe on top for the ladies. 80% of woman can not orgasm without direct stimulation to the clitoris so this is perfect! The vibe rubs against the clitoris during intercourse making it an unforgettable experience. You can even turn it around so his friends underneath the penis can get a little vibe action also!
Q: How do you introduce toys to a significant other?
GREAT question.
Although toys have come far and we don't seem to be as shy around them anymore, there is still that barrier we need to cross with a new partner.
One of the major fears we have as human beings is the fear of rejection. Rejection in bed is probably the worst of them all.
It has been a little easier for myself with the "I sell sex toys" line (not that I've EVER used that as a pick up line....). But for those of you that have those toys/edibles/lotions hiding in a plastic container under your bed, you may need a push..or two.
Usually it depends on two things: your attitude on toys and how comfortable he/she makes you feel regarding the topic of sex.
You could take the 100% Honesty route and ask her or him about it while in the mood. I wouldn't just whip out anything, especially a dildo in the heat of the moment. But once those feelings kick in and your hugging, kissing and touching...it may sound enticing.
Or, if you know your partner well enough, try to get to them when they're at their calmest. Maybe while watching tv, cooking, on the internet. Speaking of the internet, you could "accidently" open a toy page. Or porno page. Watch porno together. I wouldn't keep this high on the list but maybe after a few bottles of beer or a couple of drinks it would be easier to talk about.
Many times girls have asked me to bring up the topic that I sell toys in front of her and her partner. At first it may be uncomfortable but if the third party is as comfortable as I am with the topic, it'll be easier to keep the conversation going.
For ladies, it is a wee bit more difficult. Men may feel they're not adequate enough in bed. Their manly man is too small or can't perform. Try to help them understand that they're not being replaced. But you want to add a little fun or explore other ideas. Let's say the guy watches porn. Does porn replace you? No. If anything it may help out your sex life by adding ideas for positions and/or making him want you more.
You don't have to be a good sales person to sell the idea of sex toys. If the both of you are understanding to each others needs, you should be comfortable enough to at least approach the subject. Let the other know it won't hurt to just try something new.
If you have any other ideas/comments, let me know and I'll post them! If you're a blogger, leave a comment!!!
Although toys have come far and we don't seem to be as shy around them anymore, there is still that barrier we need to cross with a new partner.
One of the major fears we have as human beings is the fear of rejection. Rejection in bed is probably the worst of them all.
It has been a little easier for myself with the "I sell sex toys" line (not that I've EVER used that as a pick up line....). But for those of you that have those toys/edibles/lotions hiding in a plastic container under your bed, you may need a push..or two.
Usually it depends on two things: your attitude on toys and how comfortable he/she makes you feel regarding the topic of sex.
You could take the 100% Honesty route and ask her or him about it while in the mood. I wouldn't just whip out anything, especially a dildo in the heat of the moment. But once those feelings kick in and your hugging, kissing and touching...it may sound enticing.
Or, if you know your partner well enough, try to get to them when they're at their calmest. Maybe while watching tv, cooking, on the internet. Speaking of the internet, you could "accidently" open a toy page. Or porno page. Watch porno together. I wouldn't keep this high on the list but maybe after a few bottles of beer or a couple of drinks it would be easier to talk about.
Many times girls have asked me to bring up the topic that I sell toys in front of her and her partner. At first it may be uncomfortable but if the third party is as comfortable as I am with the topic, it'll be easier to keep the conversation going.
For ladies, it is a wee bit more difficult. Men may feel they're not adequate enough in bed. Their manly man is too small or can't perform. Try to help them understand that they're not being replaced. But you want to add a little fun or explore other ideas. Let's say the guy watches porn. Does porn replace you? No. If anything it may help out your sex life by adding ideas for positions and/or making him want you more.
You don't have to be a good sales person to sell the idea of sex toys. If the both of you are understanding to each others needs, you should be comfortable enough to at least approach the subject. Let the other know it won't hurt to just try something new.
If you have any other ideas/comments, let me know and I'll post them! If you're a blogger, leave a comment!!!
12/06/2006
What is the difference between a dildo and a vibe...
You may have just opened while rolling your eyes with this confused look on your face while thinking, "who the hell doesn't know the difference?!"
Well my friends, a lot of people don't. And actually...I bet you don't even know. And that is PERFECTLY fine. But many of you won't even admit it or wonder...and that's what I'm here for.
I will tell you what the both do first. They are both created to enhance the sex lives of men and women whether together or alone. They both let you relax a bit more and take off the pressure of the beginning stages of stimulation. And my favorite - they both are meant to open communication between you and your partner. Because once you use a toy alone (especially woman), you learn what you love. While learning, you gain confidence and then hopefully can open up to your boy toy or sex kitten.
Now for the difference...To put it simply: Vibrators vibrate and dildos don't. Period. Yea, I know, it may seem like a waste of a blog. But I bet most of you have just learned something new today! And now for the details!!
Dildos!
Dildos are created to imitate the penis. They come in all different shapes and sizes. They can be hard or soft, jelly-like or life like.
A girl in college once told me to get the size and shape you'd like...but more importantly - get the skin color that turns you on the most. Now isn't that silly? I mean unless you prefer the black penis to a white one, how can you really tell a spanish penis from an italian one? Anyhoo - that's probably a blog topic on its own. You won't be making eye contact too often with this dildo, so what really does it matter?
Vibes!
Vibrators can also look like the penis but also come in a wider variety of shapes and sizes.
Other than realistic looking, there are ones made specifically for the g-spot, bullets (smaller, egg-shaped), double shaft (the dildo look-alike with a nubby thing half way down meant for clitoral feel good-ness), butterflies, dolphins, turtles even flowers. Those last couple of buggers aren't meant for vaginal insertion. Just for pressing into the vulva. Some even come with straps to go around the thighs...feel free to wear during sex, on the train or at work (ha...ha ha...if you really do that, you MUST share)
Any preferences? Weirded out by any? Have any questions?? Little pieces of advice? E-mail me or post a comment
:)
Well my friends, a lot of people don't. And actually...I bet you don't even know. And that is PERFECTLY fine. But many of you won't even admit it or wonder...and that's what I'm here for.
I will tell you what the both do first. They are both created to enhance the sex lives of men and women whether together or alone. They both let you relax a bit more and take off the pressure of the beginning stages of stimulation. And my favorite - they both are meant to open communication between you and your partner. Because once you use a toy alone (especially woman), you learn what you love. While learning, you gain confidence and then hopefully can open up to your boy toy or sex kitten.
Now for the difference...To put it simply: Vibrators vibrate and dildos don't. Period. Yea, I know, it may seem like a waste of a blog. But I bet most of you have just learned something new today! And now for the details!!
Dildos!
Dildos are created to imitate the penis. They come in all different shapes and sizes. They can be hard or soft, jelly-like or life like.
A girl in college once told me to get the size and shape you'd like...but more importantly - get the skin color that turns you on the most. Now isn't that silly? I mean unless you prefer the black penis to a white one, how can you really tell a spanish penis from an italian one? Anyhoo - that's probably a blog topic on its own. You won't be making eye contact too often with this dildo, so what really does it matter?
Vibes!
Vibrators can also look like the penis but also come in a wider variety of shapes and sizes.
Other than realistic looking, there are ones made specifically for the g-spot, bullets (smaller, egg-shaped), double shaft (the dildo look-alike with a nubby thing half way down meant for clitoral feel good-ness), butterflies, dolphins, turtles even flowers. Those last couple of buggers aren't meant for vaginal insertion. Just for pressing into the vulva. Some even come with straps to go around the thighs...feel free to wear during sex, on the train or at work (ha...ha ha...if you really do that, you MUST share)
Any preferences? Weirded out by any? Have any questions?? Little pieces of advice? E-mail me or post a comment
:)
If you're checking this out for the first time, READ ME FIRST!!!
Welcome Ladies! And hopefully gentlemen, despite the title of this blog.
The reason I've created an introductory blog is basically to save my butt in the long run. I want to lay down a couple of rules/facts about me and this blog before getting started. I don't need to be blamed or debated or whatever else. There are billions of blogs out there in the world and we have to keep in mind that it's all for fun and sharing. Right? Right!
I want to expand my horizons in to cyber space - the clean, safe way. Blogging doesn't call for removing clothes, video taping or 900 calling. I mean you can if you want to...but like I said...I'm aiming for a clean and safe way to talk about sex.
So here are the facts...
Uno. I'm not a doctor. No Ph.D behind my name, no schooling (I hate school), no nothing. So I won't prescribe anything. What I talk about/give advice about is strictly from experience, books or word of mouth with truth to it. And when I say 'truth' I mean what my opinion is about the truth.
Two. There are going to be many topics to talk about. I urge you to respond, add on, comment on, make a poem about it, take a picture of it, whatever...I would greatly appreciate it and love it if there was any questions/comments/your own story regarding the topic.
Three. Just to let you know why I'm interested in the topic of sex. I'm not a weirdo. Nor a nympho or freak of any sort. I did actually want to go to school for this but then I'd have to deal with it hands on and that's not for me. But for some reason I've always had an open ear for those who wanted to talk to me about sex - and anything dealing with it. Eventually I'd like to own my own business - a classy, clean and vibrant toy store. We'll see where that goes but at least you know how serious I am about this.
Four. I'm not a writer by any means. Don't judge me by my punctuation or run-on sentences.
Five. I am 100% considerate of your privacy. If you want to respond but don't want an identity of any kind shown on the blog, just email me your response and I'll post it for you anonymously. OR...have a blog idea? Let me know!!!
Sex. The bees do it, doggies do it, hamsters get it on and yea, even your parents have done it at least once. So why is it so controversial and kept quiet or...considered dirty? Hmm...
Thank you for at least getting this far...now do me a favor, use the back button, click on a topic and respond!!!!
(((((I've started out with three new blogs...it won't always be that way but I need to start somewhere)))))
The reason I've created an introductory blog is basically to save my butt in the long run. I want to lay down a couple of rules/facts about me and this blog before getting started. I don't need to be blamed or debated or whatever else. There are billions of blogs out there in the world and we have to keep in mind that it's all for fun and sharing. Right? Right!
I want to expand my horizons in to cyber space - the clean, safe way. Blogging doesn't call for removing clothes, video taping or 900 calling. I mean you can if you want to...but like I said...I'm aiming for a clean and safe way to talk about sex.
So here are the facts...
Uno. I'm not a doctor. No Ph.D behind my name, no schooling (I hate school), no nothing. So I won't prescribe anything. What I talk about/give advice about is strictly from experience, books or word of mouth with truth to it. And when I say 'truth' I mean what my opinion is about the truth.
Two. There are going to be many topics to talk about. I urge you to respond, add on, comment on, make a poem about it, take a picture of it, whatever...I would greatly appreciate it and love it if there was any questions/comments/your own story regarding the topic.
Three. Just to let you know why I'm interested in the topic of sex. I'm not a weirdo. Nor a nympho or freak of any sort. I did actually want to go to school for this but then I'd have to deal with it hands on and that's not for me. But for some reason I've always had an open ear for those who wanted to talk to me about sex - and anything dealing with it. Eventually I'd like to own my own business - a classy, clean and vibrant toy store. We'll see where that goes but at least you know how serious I am about this.
Four. I'm not a writer by any means. Don't judge me by my punctuation or run-on sentences.
Five. I am 100% considerate of your privacy. If you want to respond but don't want an identity of any kind shown on the blog, just email me your response and I'll post it for you anonymously. OR...have a blog idea? Let me know!!!
Sex. The bees do it, doggies do it, hamsters get it on and yea, even your parents have done it at least once. So why is it so controversial and kept quiet or...considered dirty? Hmm...
Thank you for at least getting this far...now do me a favor, use the back button, click on a topic and respond!!!!
(((((I've started out with three new blogs...it won't always be that way but I need to start somewhere)))))
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